Real Self-Esteem

Self-esteem and self-love

This twelve-video playlist by Terry Real, about an hour and forty minutes long, is built around one theme: how a person comes to value and accept themselves. It separates confidence from self-esteem early on, then returns to self-love and the habit of judging yourself.

Relationships and boundaries

A large share of the lessons looks at how self-esteem plays out with partners. Topics include boundaries, intimacy, the pull of people-pleasing, and emotional abuse rooted in contempt.

Patterns and change

• Why seeking validation from others keeps you stuck.
• How to stop repeating the past.
• Whether people with narcissistic traits can really change.

The listing does not describe a set curriculum, so treat these as individual talks to return to as particular patterns come up.